Just say NO

In my daily paper we have a “tell me about it” section by Carolyn Hax…she had a great response yesterday that I couldn’t agree with more. Let me give you a readers digest version of the question-

Mother in law gives her grandchildren a puppy without asking the parents – mom and dad were not thrilled. Puppy had health problems and died. Grandma then buys TWO replacement puppies…now Mom is furious! Her husband is allergic to dogs in the first place and she is already busy with toddlers. She does not want to keep the dogs.

Answer (shortened) – If they are breeder puppies return them, if they are mill puppy’s contact your local rescue group.

A write in responding to answer – “You’re suggesting she just heartlessly give the puppies back. What about the fact that the kids would be heartbroken to lose two more pets”.

THIS IS THE BEST PART…HER ANSWER – Yes, it would break the kids hearts. But that doesn’t give the kids the last word on how these two parents run their home. An overwhelmed mother’s needs supersede the heartstrings. They just do. If the parents handle it with sensitivity and transparency about their reasoning, it can be a valuable lesson for kids in handling the word “no”.Too many people walk around with the clear signs that they weren’t taught how to take “no” for an answer, and they suffer from it more than anyone.

 I love this and I think it is a very important lesson to be learned so I had to pass it on. Just say NO.

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